It's a Great Life!

Taking Action

2008-11-07T08:17:00.001-08:00

It is my opinion that all too often, people choose to do nothing. I even spent a couple of weeks recently thinking about "what to do". I was faced with making some very significant changes in my life, and although we all think having "unlimited possibilities" would be a great thing. It can also be paralyzing! For many of us making a decision is difficult. We think about all of the possible worst case scenarios, second guess our own abilities, blah, blah, blah...So what do we do? NOTHING!

I've often said that "sometimes to be successful, you have to be too dumb to know better!"
I believe that's true. If we would just "pull the trigger" sometimes, without "thinking it all through" and "doing all of the research", we would be better off! But, we've been taught "think it through", "don't make rash decisions", "don't jump the gun". That would be fine if we also didn't have those voices that say "what if I fail?" "What if I make a fool of myself?" "I'm not that smart" "I'm not good enough". We carry all of those thoughts around every day, and when the opportunity to do something arises, there they are! Ready to jump up and stop us!

A few months ago I had been listening to this Andy Andrews CD (it's my all time favorite, and I've almost worn it out!). It's about "taking action", and so when I came across a Craigslist post that said "puppies die tomorrow" complete with a photo of 7 tiny lab pups and the explanation that they were to be "put down" at a shelter at 4pm the following day, I was haunted by it all night. I thought "I have to do something! How am I going to feel at 4:05 if I do nothing?". I knew that I had very little money at the time, but didn't give it much thought. I just decided! I told my husband, we grabbed a big box, picked the boys up from school, and drove to the shelter an hour away. I also didn't think about the fact that I had a horrible middle ear infection and couldn't stand to be in moving car without incredible motion sickness!
Anyway, while my husband was driving, I got on my laptop and emailed a few friends about the puppies asking if they knew of anyone who could take one. My emails were forwarded to more people than I could even imagine! Including an amazing rescue group (Marleys Cat Tales). Suddenly, I was getting emails and phone calls from all over! People I didn't even know were either offering help, or just saying "thanks" for what we were doing. When we got home we had people showing up at our house with supplies, and offering to foster some of them. It was truly surreal!

At the end of the day, we had not only saved 7 precious little puppies, but taught our children that ANYONE and EVERYONE can do SOMETHING to make a difference. And sometimes, it's just a matter of taking a leap of faith! I KNEW that there were enough people in this area and that there had to be some who would want a puppy. I had NO IDEA how it would all work out.

I've heard soooo many times to "just figure out the what, and the how will come". But so many times I still find myself wanting to see the entire plan!

When you find yourself in this "place", watch this video! And remember these words by Andy Andrews, "God did not put in you the ability to always make the right decision. But he did put in you the ability to make a decision, and to make it right!"

Andy Andrews - Joshua Chamberlain

Did You Step in Poop Today? What Do YOU Do When You're Having a Bad Day?

2008-11-06T07:49:00.001-08:00

Sheep, Sheepdogs and Wolves

2008-11-03T14:13:00.001-08:00

This has always been a favorite of mine, and is timely now more than ever...

By Lt. Col Dave Grossman

Most of the people in our society are sheep. They are kind, gentle, productive creatures who can only hurt one another by accident." This is true. Remember, the murder rate is six per 100,000 per year, and the aggravated assault rate is four per 1,000 per year. What this means is that the vast majority of Americans are not inclined to hurt one another.

We may well be in the most violent times in history, but violence is still remarkably rare. This is because most citizens are kind, decent people who are not capable of hurting each other, except by accident or under extreme provocation. They are sheep.

Then there are the wolves and the wolves feed on the sheep without mercy. Do you believe there are wolves out there who will feed on the flock without mercy? You better believe it. There are evil men in this world and they are capable of evil deeds. The moment you forget that or pretend it is not so, you become a sheep. There is no safety in denial.

Then there are sheepdogs and I'm a sheepdog. I live to protect the flock and confront the wolf. Or, as a sign in one California law enforcement agency put it, "We intimidate those who intimidate others."

If you have no capacity for violence then you are a healthy productive citizen: a sheep. If you have a capacity for violence and no empathy for your fellow citizens, then you have defined an aggressive sociopath–a wolf. But what if you have a capacity for violence, and a deep love for your fellow citizens? Then you are a sheepdog, a warrior, someone who is walking the hero's path. Someone who can walk into the heart of darkness, into the universal human phobia, and walk out unscathed.

We know that the sheep live in denial, that is what makes them sheep. They do not want to believe that there is evil in the world. They can accept the fact that fires can happen, which is why they want fire extinguishers, fire sprinklers, fire alarms and fire exits throughout their kids' schools. But many of them are outraged at the idea of putting an armed police officer in their kid's school. Our children are thousands of times more likely to be killed or seriously injured by school violence than fire, but the sheep's only response to the possibility of violence is denial. The idea of someone coming to kill or harm their child is just too hard, and so they chose the path of denial.

The sheep generally do not like the sheepdog. He looks a lot like the wolf. He has fangs and the capacity for violence. The
difference, though, is that the sheepdog must not, cannot and will not ever harm the sheep. Any sheep dog who intentionally harms the lowliest little lamb will be punished and removed. The world cannot work any other way, at least not in a representative democracy or a republic such as ours.

Still, the sheepdog disturbs the sheep. He is a constant reminder that there are wolves in the land. They would prefer that he didn't tell them where to go, or give them traffic tickets, or stand at the ready in our airports, in camouflage fatigues, holding an M-16. The sheep would much rather have the sheepdog cash in his fangs, spray paint himself white, and go, "Baa." Until the wolf shows up. Then the entire flock tries desperately to hide behind one lonely sheepdog.

The students, the victims, at Columbine High School were big, tough high school students, and under ordinary circumstances they would not have had the time of day for a police officer. They were not bad kids; they just had nothing to say to a cop. When the school was under attack, however, and SWAT teams were clearing the rooms and hallways, the officers had to physically peel those clinging, sobbing kids off of them. This is how the little lambs feel about their sheepdog when the wolf is at the door.

Look at what happened after September 11, 2001 when the wolf pounded hard on the door. Remember how America, more than ever before, felt differently about their law enforcement officers and military personnel? Remember how many times you heard the word hero?

Understand that there is nothing morally superior about being a sheepdog; it is just what you choose to be. Also understand that a sheepdog is a funny critter: He is always sniffing around out on the perimeter, checking the breeze, barking at things that go bump in the night, and yearning for a righteous battle. That is, the young sheepdogs yearn for a righteous battle. The old sheepdogs are a little older and wiser, but they move to the sound of the guns when needed, right along with the young ones.

Here is how the sheep and the sheepdog think differently. The sheep pretend the wolf will never come, but the sheepdog lives for that day. After the attacks on September 11, 2001, most of the sheep, that is, most citizens in America said, "Thank God I wasn't on one of those planes." The sheepdogs, the warriors, said, "Dear God, I wish I could have been on one of those planes. Maybe I could have made a difference." When you are truly transformed into a warrior and have truly invested yourself into warriorhood, you want to be there. You want to be able to make a difference.

There is nothing morally superior about the sheepdog, the warrior, but he does have one real advantage. Only one. And that is that he is able to survive and thrive in an environment that destroys 98 percent of the population.

There was research conducted a few years ago with individuals convicted of violent crimes. These cons were in prison for serious,
predatory crimes of violence: assaults, murders and killing law enforcement officers. The vast majority said that they specifically
targeted victims by body language: Slumped walk, passive behavior and lack of awareness. They chose their victims like big cats do in Africa, when they select one out of the herd that is least able to protect itself.

Some people may be destined to be sheep and others might be genetically primed to be wolves or sheepdogs. But I believe that
most people can choose which one they want to be, and I'm proud to say that more and more Americans are choosing to become sheepdogs.

Seven months after the attack on September 11, 2001, Todd Beamer was honored in his hometown of Cranbury, New Jersey. Todd, as you recall, was the man on Flight 93 over Pennsylvania who called on his cell phone to alert an operator from United Airlines about the hijacking. When he learned of the other three passenger planes that had been used as weapons, Todd dropped his phone and uttered the words, "Let's roll," which authorities believe was a signal to the other passengers to confront the terrorist hijackers. In one hour, a transformation occurred among the passengers - athletes, business people and parents. — from sheep to sheepdogs and together they fought the wolves, ultimately saving an unknown number of lives on the ground.

There is no safety for honest men except by believing all possible evil of evil men. - Edmund Burke

Here is the point I like to emphasize, especially to the thousands of police officers and soldiers I speak to each year. In nature the
sheep, real sheep, are born as sheep. Sheepdogs are born that way, and so are wolves. They didn't have a choice. But you are not a critter. As a human being, you can be whatever you want to be. It is a conscious, moral decision.

If you want to be a sheep, then you can be a sheep and that is okay, but you must understand the price you pay. When the wolf comes, you and your loved ones are going to die if there is not a sheepdog there to protect you. If you want to be a wolf, you can be one, but the sheepdogs are going to hunt you down and you will never have rest, safety, trust or love. But if you want to be a sheepdog and walk the warrior's path, then you must make a conscious and moral decision every day to dedicate, equip and prepare yourself to thrive in that toxic, corrosive moment when the wolf comes knocking at the door.

This business of being a sheep or a sheep dog is not a yes-no dichotomy. It is not an all-or-nothing, either-or choice. It is a
matter of degrees, a continuum. On one end is an abject, head-in-the-sand-sheep and on the other end is the ultimate warrior. Few people exist completely on one end or the other. Most of us live somewhere in between.

Since 9-11 almost everyone in America took a step up that continuum, away from denial. The sheep took a few steps toward accepting and appreciating their warriors, and the warriors started taking their job more seriously. It's okay to be a sheep, but do not kick the sheepdog. Indeed, the sheep dog may just run a little harder, strive to protect a little better and be fully prepared to pay an ultimate price in battle and spirit with the sheep moving from "baa" to "thanks". The degree to which you move up that continuum, away from "sheephood" and denial, is the degree to which you and your loved ones will survive, physically and psychologically at your moment of truth.

We do not call for gifts or freedoms beyond our lot. We just need a small pat on the head, a smile and a thank you to fill the emotional tank which is drained protecting the sheep. And when our number is called by the Almighty, and day retreats into night, a small prayer before the heavens just may be in order to say thanks for letting you continue to be a sheep. And be grateful for the thousands, millions of American sheepdogs who permit you the freedom to express even bad ideas.

Palin Rally at NC Fairgrounds

2008-11-03T06:09:00.000-08:00

For those who didn't make it to the Palin Rally on Saturday, the turnout was truly stunning! I have honestly never seen so many people at the fairgrounds, even during the fair! I have attended a lot of events with large crowds of people (concerts, races, etc), and this was a sight to see. Far more people were outside than were able to get inside. It wasn't disappointing not to get in, but I am so glad that I went!
We arrived at 4:05 (the gates opened at 4pm) and the line already extended from the expo center around the turkey shoot back up to the Jim Graham Building around Dorton Arena to Hillsborough St., back down alongside Dorton, and out into the parking lot! What was truly astounding was the number of people who continued to file in long after the doors were closed!
We were fortunate enough to be "next in line" when they closed the doors, which gave us a front row position in the overflow area when Sarah Palin did come by to wave at the crowd.

Who Are You?

2008-10-24T05:29:00.001-07:00

I met someone the other day who was truly, without a doubt, the most arrogant, pompous and condescending jack$&^ I have ever met. He was abrasive, rude, and no, he wasn't "from around here". I was particularly amazed because he has recently been "put in charge" of several offices around the country, one of which is here. As he proclaimed his extensive management experiences, countless accomplishments and many skills, I couldn't help but sit there and write notes like "who is this guy?, when is he EVER going to stop bragging about himself? and aren't you breaking every rule of leadership, management, communication, working with people, and simple manners by talking about yourself for 45 minutes????" I'm sure my eyes were the size of saucers as he talked about his success as a recruiter! "How is that possible?" I asked myself, followed by "good luck with that here!".

It actually went from bad to worse when we moved to a more "intimate" setting at a local coffee shop, with just a few of us, so that we could ask questions. Astoundingly, each question was met with profound defensiveness. At several points along the way, his response was (to these folks who are now "working under him" and who have just met him for the first time!) "if you don't like it, you don't have to stay".

He actually said at one point that he was "more experienced, and had "accomplished more" than the owner of the company he works for! (I swear he did! I wouldn't have believed it either if I hadn't been there!)

At that point, I was REALLY thinking "good luck with that attitude here!"
The most amazing part is, I had a conversation with his boss yesterday who insists that he is nothing like that. He swears that he is kind and cares about his people and is "all about" helping them. He has achieved amazing results and "couldn't possibly have done that if he acted that way".

Hmmm...while I would certainly agree with that last statement, it left me completely and totally baffled. How could someone possibly be THAT different in one state vs. another? Power? Did he forget to take some kind of medication? How is that possible???

Honestly, I felt like the woman who knows her husband is cheating on her, but he is so adamant that he isn't, she starts to wonder if she's crazy! Fortunately however, there were plenty of witnesses!

So, how can someone be THAT different? Can they really, or is one just the "REAL" them, and the other the one that they want people to think they are? Is it just that they want certain people to see them a certain way? If so, how do you know who the "REAL" person is?
Does it matter? Or does it only matter who the person is that presented themselves to you?
After all, does it really matter if they are a superhero somewhere else, but are intent on being a superjackass where you are?

Hmm...I would have to say that it only matters to you, who they portray themselves to be to you!

In any case, this video came to me today, and I found it quite timely! Check it out, and let me know what YOU think!

Who are you?
(By Gary Davis)

Have You Ever Set Your Clock Ahead So You Wouldn't Be Late?

2008-10-18T11:27:00.000-07:00

this is too funny! and yes, useful!
David Seah - A Chindogu Clock for Procrastinators

A paint program built for kids - Downloads from The Kim Komando Radio Show® & Web site

2008-10-18T11:21:00.000-07:00

A paint program built for kids - Downloads from The Kim Komando Radio Show® & Web site

Marketing Drugs to Kids: From Cheese to Strawberry Quick - FOX Fan

2008-10-14T09:04:00.000-07:00

Scary!!!
New drug in Schools...

There is a new drug known as 'strawberry quick '. It is a type of crystal meth that looks like strawberry pop rocks (the candy that sizzles and 'pops' in your mouth). It also smells like strawberry and it is being handed out to kids in school yards. They are calling it strawberry meth or strawberry quick.

Kids are ingesting this thinking that it is candy and being rushed off to the hospital in dire condition. It also comes in chocolate, peanut butter, cola, cherry, grape and orange.

Please instruct your children not to accept candy from strangers and even not to accept candy that looks like this from a friend (who may have been given it and believed it is candy) and to take any that they may have to a teacher, principal, etc. immediately.

FOXNews.com - Marketing Drugs to Kids: From Cheese to Strawberry Quick - FOX Fan

The Funniest Thing I've Heard all Week! The Value of Beer

2008-09-26T13:48:00.000-07:00

Real Estate Blog - The Value of Beer

Downtown Apex Accident

2008-09-25T06:23:00.001-07:00

oops! A school bus thankfully "tagged" only the door and not the elderly driver as it made a left turn onto Salem from Chatham St. in downtown Apex yesterday in front of the new Anna's Pizza. What's the expression..."Look before you leap?"

This 3 bedroom 2 Full bathroom Single Family located at 266 Kadir Womble , 305, New Hill, North Carolina is presented by Donna Kleinert

2008-09-19T16:27:00.000-07:00

Please check out my dear friend Donna's home (now listed for sale). Her husband has Parkinsons and they are moving to into town so that he can have a more active lifestye. It's an awesome property. Spread the word!
This 3 bedroom 2 Full bathroom Single Family located at 266 Kadir Womble , 305, New Hill, North Carolina is presented by Donna Kleinert

Interior Design Trends of 2008 | Real Living Blog

2008-09-16T08:55:00.000-07:00

Great article about what's "in" this year!
Interior Design Trends of 2008 | Real Living Blog

Apex Accepts Another Anthemion Award

2008-09-14T17:27:00.000-07:00

Dashwire.com
Apex NC accepted yet another Anthemion award for historic preservation at a ceremony held 9/11 by Capital Area Preservation. Chris and I attended as did various members of Apex Town staff.

Can Network Marketing save you in a recession?

2008-09-09T04:52:00.000-07:00

How smart people protect themselves during a recession | Dave Saunders

Network Marketing - Bad or Brilliant?

2008-09-09T04:42:00.000-07:00

There are a few things in life we have been convinced are "universal truths" such as: 'You have to have money to make money...being successful is hard...and network marketing is bad"...
I was recently introduced to an amazing opportunity to create what we all want (for myself, my family, and others) and that is "Health and wealth"- the two things that most keep me awake at night! It's an amazing health product called "Mona-vie". Anyway, my knee jerk reaction was the same as most, my brain clicked through: "another MLM...amway...bad...scam...etc". But, I remembered reading somewhere that Robert G. Allen (author of many books such as my favorite "Multiple Streams of Income"), Warren Buffett and many other "financial geniuses" strongly believe in network marketing. So, I decided to do a little research and thought that I would share...
Marketing, business - Deciding if Network Marketing is Right for You

SpeedyMarks - My Visual Bookmarks

2008-09-07T05:23:00.000-07:00

Are you highly visual like me? Check out speedymarks.com. You can set up a webpage w/all of your bookmarks that have thumbnail images of them. So instead of a boring list of pages, or one where you can't remember which one on the list is the one you are looking for, you can see each page and click to go there! Pretty cool!
SpeedyMarks - My Visual Bookmarks

Online Office, Word Processor, Spreadsheet, Presentation, CRM and more

2008-09-07T05:13:00.000-07:00

My latest "online find"!
ZOHO is a free online service similar to google docs, but better (in my opinion) with an online word processor, spreadsheets, notebook, crm, agenda, etc, etc. If you are tired of emailing docs, don't have a sharing server, etc., check it out!
Online Office, Word Processor, Spreadsheet, Presentation, CRM and more

Home prices by metro area - MSN Money

2008-08-27T07:36:00.000-07:00

Look! The sky isn't falling here!
Home prices by metro area - MSN Money

YadaHome is Your Virtual "Fridge" Start Page (The Startup Review)

2008-08-25T16:01:00.000-07:00

YadaHome is Your Virtual "Fridge" Start Page (The Startup Review)
Check this out! YadaHome really is like having all the stuff on your fridge on your computer!

Triangle TRACKS

2008-08-22T07:06:00.000-07:00

Triangle TRACKS
My new favorite website~! If you have kids, you have to check it out!

14 Personalized Homepages Compared, Feature by Feature

2008-08-20T18:15:00.000-07:00

Yes, I'm secretly a tech geek! Well, sort of.
I know nothing about programming and care little about hardware, and boring "technical" stuff. But i love discovering cool tools, sites and software. I thought that this was interesting...
14 Personalized Homepages Compared, Feature by Feature

Gmail - concert pictures - goheathero@gmail.com

2008-08-20T14:53:00.000-07:00

Gmail - concert pictures - goheathero@gmail.com
Children of the Horn performed at the Apex Depot last weekend. They were awesome! There was a great art display too! Art and Music on a Friday night in Apex!

Apex Family Saves Puppies - Apex - MyNC.com

2008-08-19T16:00:00.000-07:00

Apex Family Saves Puppies - Apex - MyNC.com
I'm so proud!

Movie Filming in Apex NC

2008-08-19T15:01:00.000-07:00

"A Brush with Murder" is a short film that will be an "Alfred Hitchcock type" murder mystery. The movie is set in the 1930s and was filmed in downtown Apex recently. This film will be submitted to the Sundance Film Festival later this year by Back Focus Films.

Brownstones in The Green at Scotts Mill Apex NC

2008-08-19T14:51:00.000-07:00

Coming right along! These luxury brick townhomes will soon be complete! Move in in less than 30 days if you want! You won't believe all of the custom details! Progressive Builders of NC is notorious for their impeccable quality and these homes are no different. You won't believe that you can get a home of this caliber for $275k-$300k in Apex!
Who needs a yard! Enjoy the lush green park across the street without maintaining it!
Low maintenance, beautiful, loaded w/features, walking distance to the park, greenway, church, school, coffee shop, photography and music studios, dental and others offices and more! What more could you ask for!

Adopt a Yellow Labrador Retriever: K-07 5-3-0048 URGE: Petfinder

2008-06-18T08:18:00.000-07:00

Adopt a Yellow Labrador Retriever: K-07 5-3-0048 URGE: Petfinder
What a cutie! Yellow labs are the best!

No higher death risk from coffee - Heart health- msnbc.com

2008-06-17T07:01:00.000-07:00

No higher death risk from coffee - Heart health- msnbc.com

WooHoo! More evidence that coffee is good for you (if you're a woman at least!) Great News for me!

Gas Prices - MSN Autos

2008-05-22T17:30:00.000-07:00

Gas prices got you down? Check ths out to find the cheapest places in our area!
Gas Prices - MSN Autos

bizjournals: Economic vitality goes to youthful metros

2008-05-22T06:13:00.000-07:00

bizjournals: Economic vitality goes to youthful metros
Young or old, if you want to live somewhere that tops every "list" there is, The Raleigh area is the place to be!

MyNC.com - Holly Springs to Host Wake County Gang Prevention Forum

2008-05-20T12:02:00.000-07:00

MyNC.com - Holly Springs to Host Wake County Gang Prevention Forum

Custom crafted items for sale!

2008-05-20T12:01:00.000-07:00

cute corkboards and chalkboards leftover ffrom peakfest! Only $10.

MyNC.com - Apex Home

2008-05-19T14:33:00.000-07:00

MyNC.com - Apex Home
Kudos to NBC 17 for this! They are really working hard for each community!

Sweet Buck...

2008-05-13T05:43:00.000-07:00

He may not be able to walk very well, but he's pretty content here!

Custom Built Home in Holly Springs on almost 1/2acre

2008-05-12T10:37:00.000-07:00

Check out this custom built home by Progressive Builders of NC! In Holly Springs, this home features everything that the "others call upgrades!". Hardwoods, screened porch, granite and more. AND it's on a huge lot in a community with NO HOA dues! Check it out!
118 Desert Orchid Rd. Holly Springs, NC. Visit our website at www.HeatherO.com.

Family Birthday Bash! May 08

2008-05-10T04:34:00.000-07:00

Great Custom New Home in Holly Springs!

2008-05-09T08:11:00.000-07:00